Cats are beloved companions, offering a mix of charm, independence, and comfort. These small, tiger-like creatures are not only affectionate but also provide comfort during difficult times. Their love of sunbathing and soothing purrs make them a joy to have around.
The internet has amplified our love for cats, showcasing their quirky and humorous behavior. Social media platforms, like the “Why You Should Get A Cat” account on X, highlight these entertaining moments, tempting many to think about adding a cat to their lives.
Despite the growing popularity of cats as pets, their behavior is often misunderstood, leading to common challenges for owners.
To explore this further, Bored Panda consulted with Jules dos Santos, a cat psychologist and founder of Luxury Cat Lodge, and Jane Ehrlich, a professional cat behaviorist at Cattitudebehavior. Their insights offer valuable guidance for anyone considering or currently living with a cat.
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Jules dos Santos operates Luxury Cat Lodge in Australia, a boutique hotel designed to offer cats a comfortable and well-cared-for stay while their owners are away. The facility provides elegant rooms and professional care, ensuring a stress-free experience for feline guests.
In addition to running the cat hotel, Jules is a qualified veterinary nurse with an advanced diploma in feline behavior and psychology. We reached out to her to gain insights into the psychological traits of cats and how understanding these traits can benefit both potential adopters and current cat owners.
Jules shared, “My work as a cat psychologist is centered on helping people understand their cats. Unlike dog trainers, I don’t train cats in the traditional sense. Instead, I focus on helping owners grasp the natural and nurtured behaviors of their cats.
Once people understand the reasons behind their cats’ actions, they can work on cohabitation strategies and behavior modifications. Interestingly, these modifications often involve changes on the owner’s part rather than the cat’s. When owners adjust their behavior, the cat’s behavior often follows suit. Understanding cat psychology is key.”
She also emphasized that cats are frequently misunderstood. “Cats have complex and unique characteristics that are often overlooked. It’s disheartening to see owners treat them like human babies or dogs when they are entirely different beings,” Jules explained. Her insights highlight the importance of recognizing and respecting the distinct nature of cats.
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Given Jules’s extensive experience as a cat psychologist, we asked her about common behavioral challenges that cat owners might encounter and how adopting a cat could help address or reduce these issues. Jules highlighted two primary concerns: inappropriate elimination, such as urinating outside the litter tray, and aggression, whether it’s between cats or directed at their owners.
Jules noted, “Inappropriate elimination is one of the most common issues, but it’s interesting to observe that many cats surrendered for this reason do not continue the behavior in their new homes. This supports my belief that such behaviors, when not caused by medical conditions, are almost always linked to environmental factors.”
Aggression, on the other hand, is more complex. “Working through aggression can take several hours or even weeks, as it often involves identifying and addressing the root cause. Most of the time, aggression stems from the owner’s failure to understand the cat’s needs and behaviors,” Jules explained. Her insights underscore the importance of creating a supportive environment and building a deeper understanding between cats and their owners.
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Drawing from her experience in rehabilitating cat behavior, Jules shared some heartwarming success stories where her interventions significantly improved the relationships between cats and their owners.
One particular case involved a bonded pair of Bengal siblings who suddenly became aggressive toward each other. “It was truly baffling,” Jules recalled. “These two went from being inseparable, often curled up together and grooming one another, to suddenly wanting to harm each other. The transformation was shocking and hard to understand.”
Despite the challenges, the owner was committed to reuniting the pair. After months of trying various approaches, Jules suggested an extended stay at her cat hotel, where the siblings could undergo a slow reintroduction process in a controlled environment. “It took time, but eventually, it worked,” she shared. “I still have beautiful photos of them today, curled up together just like they used to.” This story is a testament to the impact of patience, dedication, and understanding in restoring harmony between cats.
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We also asked Jules why she believes it’s crucial for potential cat owners to be well-informed about feline behavior before adopting a cat, and how this knowledge can contribute to more fulfilling relationships between cats and their owners.
Jules emphasized the importance of education, stating, “It’s essential for cat owners to educate themselves for various reasons, particularly to understand that cats are not always the ‘easier’ pet option. For instance, they require daily litter tray maintenance. Additionally, cats are not dogs and display affection differently, so recognizing these differences is just as important.”
She further explained that understanding feline behavior leads to greater appreciation and connection between the owner and the cat. “Once you understand cats and their behaviors, it brings a sense of acceptance and awe for these beautiful creatures, significantly enhancing the bond between owner and pet.”
Jules also highlighted the importance of understanding breed-specific traits. “It’s not just about behavior but also recognizing the differences between breeds. For example, Bengals, which are essentially wild cats in a domestic setting, often present unique challenges. Researching these traits can help ensure a better match between the owner and their cat(s),” she added. This knowledge can lead to more harmonious and rewarding relationships, making the adoption experience more successful.
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As the former director of boarding and pet care services for the Pet Industry Association Australia, Jules offered her perspective on the future of cat welfare and responsible cat ownership, along with the role she envisions playing in shaping that future.
Although she no longer holds the director position, Jules expressed her satisfaction with the positive developments in cat welfare. “I’m thrilled to see the progress in cat welfare and responsible ownership. When I began my career as a veterinary nurse 25 years ago, cats were often kept in backyards and fed twice a day. Today, they are cherished as valued family members, with their well-being taken into account in every aspect of life shared with their owners.”
Jules also noted a significant shift in adoption trends. “Over the years, I’ve seen a rise in cat adoptions, with fewer specific breeds in my hotels and more rescued cats. The awareness is spreading about the unacceptably high euthanasia rates we once had, and people are recognizing the need for change. This shift is largely thanks to the efforts of the Animal Justice Party and Animals Australia, who have driven remarkable changes in adoption and euthanasia rates for both dogs and cats,” she added.
Jules’s reflections highlight the ongoing evolution in how cats are viewed and cared for, as well as the importance of continued advocacy and education in promoting responsible pet ownership.
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Jane Ehrlich, with 40 years of experience and a strong background in academic, clinical, and shelter settings, shared her perspective on why adopting a cat is a thoughtful decision that should be approached with care.
She emphasized the importance of understanding and appreciating a cat’s individual personality. “Each cat has its own unique personality. While there’s limited research connecting personality traits to specific breeds, my experience has shown many exceptions to these generalizations; not all calicos are sassy, and not all gingers are assertive.”
Jane also cautioned against the common misconception that cats are easier to care for than other pets. “It’s a myth that cats are low-maintenance. They might not be as obvious about their needs—remember, they’re survivors by nature, showing less and observing more—but they still require good healthcare, nutrition, a stimulating environment, and attention to their often subtle body language. They need loving and entirely positive guidance, as well as regular playtime.”
She advised potential cat owners to be fully committed and naturally inclined toward caring for a cat. “If you’re not instinctively drawn to cats, don’t get one. Cats aren’t toys, fashion statements, or just something pretty and alive to have around. Sadly, I’ve heard people give these as reasons for wanting a cat,” Jane added.
Her insights underscore the importance of recognizing the true nature and needs of cats, ensuring that those who adopt are ready to provide the love and care these animals deserve.
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Understanding a cat’s unique personality and psychological needs is essential in the adoption process and in building a strong bond between the cat and its owner. We asked Jane Ehrlich to elaborate on this, given her extensive experience.
Jane stressed the importance of selecting a cat based on personality rather than appearance. “Comments like ‘He’s beautiful’ or ‘She looks just like my old cat, Noodles’ can be misleading and burdensome for the cat. Instead, think carefully about the kind of personality you want—whether mischievous, cuddly, gentle, independent, or social. The better you understand the personality you’re seeking, the better the match you’ll find.”
She also highlighted the significance of considering the cat’s age. “Each stage of a cat’s life—whether kitten, ‘catten’ (as I call teenagers), adult, or senior—comes with its own developmental needs that are important to understand and appreciate.”
When adopting, it’s also crucial to think about your current household dynamics. “Do you already have other pets, like cats or dogs? Or children? A cat like Noodles will need a careful introduction to new surroundings and companions. Some cats might be happier as the only animal in the home. It’s about what the cat wants and what you can offer. You can’t change her nature—it’s about her happiness as much as yours.”
Jane advised potential adopters to thoroughly observe the cat before making a decision, especially if adopting from a shelter. “Talk to everyone at the shelter who knows the cat. Watch how she behaves alone and with others. The more you learn about her in advance, the better it will be for both of you.”
Her advice underscores the importance of thoughtful consideration and observation in the adoption process to ensure a harmonious and fulfilling relationship between the cat and its new owner.
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Some people might hesitate to adopt a cat due to concerns about behavioral issues or past experiences. We asked Jane Ehrlich how her expertise as a cat behaviorist can help individuals address and overcome these concerns when considering cat adoption.
Jane explained that, like people, cats can exhibit behavioral issues for various reasons, including inherited traits, parental influence, or past experiences. “I work with clients not only to address the symptoms but also to understand the underlying motivations behind the behavior—whether it’s the cat’s or the owner’s. Often, both need to be considered.”
She emphasized that each cat is unique, and it’s unfair to let past problems influence the expectations of a new cat. “Anticipating issues based on past experiences is not only irrelevant but also unfair to the new cat entering your life. This mindset can unnecessarily hinder the development of a relationship that could otherwise thrive.”
When working with clients, Jane takes a comprehensive approach by gathering as much information as possible about the cat’s history, even though this is often limited, especially for shelter cats. “We discuss both the cat’s and the owner’s perspectives, needs, and how we can achieve specific goals. Understanding the owner’s past experiences with cats is also important, as it helps me gauge how previous problems were perceived and managed. The owner’s expectations are crucial, too—are they realistic for both the cat and for me?”
Jane’s approach highlights the importance of understanding both the cat’s and the owner’s needs to foster a successful and fulfilling adoption experience. By addressing concerns thoughtfully and realistically, she helps individuals build strong, positive relationships with their new feline companions.
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We also asked Jane Ehrlich about the key factors potential cat owners should consider when deciding to adopt a cat, based on her extensive experience.
Jane emphasized the importance of assessing the cat’s health. “Look for a healthy cat: check the inner ears, teeth, gums, and overall body and fur condition. Also, take note of the litter box. Observe how the cat interacts with shelter staff and, most importantly, with you. Seeing a cat in a cage doesn’t provide enough information, so if a visitation room isn’t offered, insist on one. While some recommend spending about half an hour with the cat, I’d suggest taking longer to see how the cat relaxes in your presence.”
She also addressed the common advice against adopting shy or fearful cats, noting that these cats shouldn’t be dismissed outright. “While it’s often suggested that a shy, fearful cat might not be a good choice, I believe they shouldn’t necessarily be overlooked—especially if you have significant cat experience and are willing to invest time in working with them.”
Jane advised potential adopters to keep an open mind. “Try to avoid having a predetermined idea of the perfect cat. Sometimes, the right cat for you might be the one who unexpectedly captures your heart. Of course, it’s a gamble, but it’s one that’s often worth taking.”
Her insights underline the importance of thorough observation, patience, and flexibility when adopting a cat, ensuring a better match and a rewarding experience for both the cat and the owner.
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Finally, Jane Ehrlich shared some success stories where her professional guidance, combined with the commitment of her clients, led to positive outcomes in cat adoption cases.
She noted that the majority of cases she encounters as a cat behaviorist involve issues like inappropriate soiling—though, as she pointed out, it’s not inappropriate from the cat’s perspective—and aggression towards other animals in the home. “I find particular satisfaction in addressing aggression towards owners. In adoption cases, these issues may not always be evident at first, which is why I encourage prospective cat owners dealing with unresolved aggression issues to spend extra time with shelter cats. It’s important to observe how the cat interacts with other cats or, if the owner has a dog, to ensure the cat has had positive or at least tolerant interactions with dogs in the shelter. Unfortunately, many shelters don’t provide this opportunity.”
One of Jane’s first questions to clients facing such issues is, “‘What did you do?’ This question helps identify potential triggers or misunderstandings that might have contributed to the problem.”
Jane also mentioned that she occasionally encounters unusual cases that aren’t covered in any research, which she finds particularly intriguing. “One memorable case involved a cat who was oddly fascinated with his male owner’s urinating. That’s a story for another time,” she added with a hint of humor.
These stories highlight the importance of patience, observation, and expert guidance in overcoming behavioral challenges and ensuring successful cat adoptions. Through her work, Jane has helped many cats and their owners build strong, positive relationships, even in the face of challenging circumstances.
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